Married to an Alcoholic?...6 Quick Tips To Get Them Sober

By Ed Philips


Are you married to an alcoholic? Is your husband/wife a different person when they drink? Are you tired of the Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde Behavior? Are you at your wits end and just can't take it anymore? What can you do?Stop trying to get your husband/wife to stop drinking.

The nagging style just won't achieve anything except getting yourself emotionally stressed out, whereby defeating the object of actually being able to help somebody who means such much in your life. You can't get through to an alcoholic with verbal strength as it will just make the situation worse. You need to take the gentle and loving approach in order to win over the alcoholic and make some significant ground.

Always keep one thing very clear in your mind that you are trying to help out the person you fell in love with and not that alcoholic you see now. When they have had a few drinks and feeling a bit provocative, make sure you don't fall into the trap and just ignore them. You must keep this up to the point that they know that they can't win any longer and hopefully realise themselves that something is up.

If they insist on provoking, you should just leave the situation by going into another room, go and visit somebody you know, go out for a long stroll or just listen to your MP3. You need to maintain a strong mind as you are the one who has the power to stop them drinking by making them see for themselves that they really do have a problem.

The really sad fact about this kind of relationship is that the non-drinker ends up being as mentally and emotionally ill as the one that drinks. You should see then how important it really is that the non-drinker sets their own boundaries to what they are prepared tp put up with while their partner is under the influence of alcohol.

Whatever you do, dont allow them to see that their behaviour is affecting you as their whole ploy is to irritate you, so make sure you don't give them that satisfaction. When they do get into a state turn your back on them and try and see right through them to the person you used to know and love.

Now comes a long list of DON'TS so you don't encourage their behaviour. Don't assist them to bed. Don't allow them to drive while under the influence. Don't allow them to argue with you while drunk. Ignore them and Don't be forced into anything. Don't supply them with any booze even if they get down onto their hands and knees. Under no circumstances Don't treat them with understanding and certainly do not pay them any extra attention.

As soon as they are sober you need to change your chip and start loving them as you know and show them how concerned you and the rest of the family really are about their health. You will have to remind them of their violent behaviour while they are drunk and how bad you feel when they get into this state. The most important thing is that they really do need reminding in order for them to be able to make any progress.

This is very important when you are living with an alcoholic and this is how you heal yourself from the abuses of the alcoholic. You are not alone and there are some many stories to be found of other peoples experiences at the blog on stopdrinkingadvice.org and you will soon realise that things can change and life can get better.

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